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Author Hekate's Prophet and the Art of the Bag

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After more than a decade as a customer of Jason Miller's work, I'm posting this to make a record. The site already has a record on Miller — the structural critique is well-covered, including the observation that the god-names in his material are largely interchangeable. This is the customer-side record from someone who was inside the apparatus for a long time. There's a specific moment in the middle of what follows where his behavior stops being interpretable as anything but deliberate. I want it on the file.

I took all three of Jason Miller's Sorcery of Hecate courses, first cycle for each. Beyond Hecate: multiple other courses, most of his books, a service here, a few talismans there, a phone consult, a few audio recordings — thousands of dollars in total. The Hecate work in particular was foundational for me. I built a serious devotional practice on top of it and kept building long after the courses concluded.

My relationship to the material didn't begin when the course went on sale. I remember the period before that, when discussion around Jake Stratton-Kent's The True Grimoire was unfolding through the old Yahoo group built around the book — Goetia, spirit contact, Hekate, the recovery of older magical structures beneath the medieval overlays. Hekate's role came up often. Miller was there. I remember him saying, long before the course was released, that he might eventually offer a Hecate course of his own. I was excited about it before it was a product.

After Course 1, a clerical mix-up put me on the carryover list into the next cycle and I started receiving Course 2 Dropbox materials before I'd paid for them. I could have kept quiet and nobody probably would have noticed. Instead I contacted him and paid the full amount anyway — a little over $600 at the time — because I respected the work and didn't want materials I hadn't earned hanging over the practice. I'm flagging this up front because it becomes relevant later.

A few years after completing all three courses, I lost access to the Course 2 and Course 3 Dropbox materials during a rough period of my life. I was inside an actively harmful relationship with someone whose worldview I had absorbed at the expense of my own judgment. I had no mental health support of any kind. During that period I did damage to my own practice — destroyed implements, lost materials, severed connections to working I'd spent years building.

I eventually got out of the relationship — a working with Lilith ended it — and started trying to rebuild. Recovering the Hecate course materials was the first thing on the list. I got back on Facebook, after years away, specifically to reach out to Jason about restoring access and re-entering the returning-student cycle from Course 1. The messages were polite. I wasn't coming in hot.

He didn't respond. Months passed. As it later turned out, Facebook's filtered inbox had been hiding the messages and he genuinely hadn't seen them — but from my side, I was contacting someone whose work I'd invested years into and hearing nothing back. I missed the course cycle that opened around Halloween. During that gap of silence, I wrote a follow-up message under the assumption no one would ever read it.

The message had three main points. The first was that his distribution system was a structural disaster seemingly engineered to fuck over exactly the kind of long-term student I was. The second was that his inner circle were "kiss-ass sycophants." The third was that I did not give a single shit about being his friend.

When the messages finally surfaced for him in mid-November, that's what he found.

He responded, in a tone that read as defensive rather than curious. He wanted to know what I thought yelling at him in his inbox with messages he hadn't even seen until now was going to accomplish.

I apologized. I explained the period I'd been in. I gave him enough context to understand what had happened and why I was coming back. He said he understood. He said he'd help. He re-added me to the Hecate Hut. He re-friended me on Facebook. He confirmed my email address directly — "is this you?" — and I said yes.

For about ten minutes, I thought I had a teacher in front of me who could actually hear what I was telling him.

I was wrong.

Whatever moved him to agree was, somewhere between that night and the next morning, replaced by something else. I don't know what happened in the gap. I only know that the agreement evaporated, and what came out the other side was the apparatus this post is about.

Nothing. Days, then a week, then two. The read receipts were punctual. The replies were not. Every few days the read receipt would update — still there, still seeing everything, still not responding. Not absence exactly. Recurring acknowledgement without resolution.

When I finally asked him directly whether the silence was his way of telling me I needed to pay for the courses again, he said no. He still intended to send the materials. In the same exchange, he clarified that I had been very rude.

I want to give him this. I had been very rude. I called his community "kiss-ass sycophants." I said I did not give a single shit about being his friend. I have apologized for this multiple times, in writing. I want to be clear that the rudeness occurred in one message. The non-delivery of paid-for materials occurred over a much longer period. I'm not saying these two facts are unrelated. I'm just saying they don't seem, on inspection, to be the same size.

I apologized again. I sought reassurance that he still intended to keep his word. What I did not yet understand was that no amount of apology was going to balance the particular ledger I had accidentally disturbed. The problem was never really the profanity. The problem was that somewhere inside the profanity I'd declined the underlying economy itself, and thereby created a spiritual bookkeeping error no amount of subsequent groveling could fully reconcile.

There exists, apparently, a level of wounded occult court etiquette at which several thousand dollars of paid student material become metaphysically subordinate to the fact that someone once called your inner circle "kiss-ass sycophants" in a message they assumed nobody would ever read.

His next move was the Barnes & Noble comparison, delivered with the unmistakable confidence of a metaphor he was extremely pleased with.

In this formulation, my situation resembled walking into a Barnes & Noble after throwing all your books away and asking someone there to go collect them for you.

I want to take the metaphor seriously for a moment, because I think he was reaching for something. You can picture the exhausted bookstore employee under fluorescent lighting while some disheveled lunatic explains he used to own books and now, through a shocking sequence of personal decisions, no longer does. There's a folksy common-sense wisdom to it. If I had thrown the books away, the responsibility for retrieving them would, on the standard reading, fall on me. The shop is not in the business of recovering customer property from the dump. I sat with the metaphor. I wanted to give it a fair hearing.

The comparison runs into some difficulty once you factor in that Barnes & Noble had already been paid several thousand dollars for the books, was still storing them in a private warehouse it controlled, had personally confirmed my account details by name, repeatedly assured me it intended to send them over, and was, at this point in the analogy, beginning to post daily tarot spreads while not doing so.

I want to make sure I have this right. He had read the apology several times in real time without responding. He maintained that I had been rude. He also maintained that he intended to help. Both of these positions, in his telling, were active.

Then the next course cycle opened.

A woman in the Hut asked publicly about returning students being re-added to the post-Course-1 cycle. Jason answered her almost immediately and said emails would be going out. He had, at this point, already confirmed my email address directly.

For about a week I resisted the temptation to bother Jason about the several thousand dollars' worth of course material he'd already confirmed I was supposed to receive. The man was busy. The tarot spreads were appearing daily. New cycles were being announced. Other students were being responded to. The work, by any reasonable measure, was considerable. Daily tarot is, after all, daily. It seemed unfair to interrupt it.

Adding someone to a Dropbox folder is not generally considered an ordeal of initiation. I want to flag this because it becomes relevant. At any point during this period he could have told me he had changed his mind. He could have told me I needed to pay again. He could have told me he wasn't going to send the materials. Any of those would have ended it. Instead he kept saying he was going to send them. I kept believing him, because he was the one telling me. That was the arrangement we were in for the next several months. The read receipts continued. The public activity continued. The tarot spreads continued. The course cycles continued. Other students continued receiving responses. Meanwhile every attempt I made to resolve the situation — publicly, privately, politely, and eventually angrily — disappeared into the same unresolved silence.

By February, I had stopped asking.

I unfriended him. Left the Hecate Hut. Eventually blocked him myself to constrain any volatile overreaction that would only make things worse.

On the Taurus new moon of April 2025, I did a reading asking whether there was any value left in continuing to use his material, or whether I should walk away from it entirely. The answer was clear: the structure itself was real. Worth keeping. The cost of using it cleanly was separating the work from the man who delivered it.

Over the following months I sent two emails — May and October respectively — into what I increasingly suspected was a dead channel. I wasn't trying to negotiate. The emails were not, strictly speaking, addressed to him. He was just the available outlet. He had almost certainly blocked my email by then. Neither was probably ever read.

That's a shame, because I meant every word.

Eventually, once I'd worked out that the emails weren't reaching him, I decided to make one final direct attempt. I unblocked him on Facebook for a single message.

In it, I told him something I had never previously mentioned: that years earlier, after the clerical mistake that accidentally granted me access to Course 2 materials before payment, I had voluntarily contacted him and paid the full amount anyway — over $600 — because I respected him enough not to keep something I hadn't earned.

I asked him for two things: restoration of the materials I'd paid for, and a direct apology for how the situation had been handled. I told him plainly that if it was ignored, I would go public.

Then I ended the message with: "Your move, boss."

He read it. He blocked me.

I also threatened to leak his work in that final message. I want to be honest about this, because the alternative is pretending I didn't, and pretending I didn't would be worse than the threat itself. I threatened to leak his work. I meant it when I wrote it. By then every ordinary avenue had failed and I wanted him to understand that his conduct would have consequences. That isn't what I'm doing here. Here, I'm making the record public and telling the truth about what happened when I asked the seller first. But if we're going to be honest about his conduct, we have to be honest about mine, and mine, on that particular day, included a leak threat. I'm not going to pretend it didn't.



I've spent the intervening year separating the work from the man, as the reading said to.

I want to walk through the active phase of this slowly, because I keep thinking I must be missing something.

A customer asks for materials he has already paid for. The seller, after months of unrelated silence caused by a filtered inbox, sees the messages and agrees to send them. The seller then recalls that the customer was, at some earlier point, rude in one of those messages. The seller is, apparently, spiritually unable to drag the PDFs into an email.

For roughly three months, from mid-November into February, the seller maintains the position that he intends to send them. He reads the customer's apologies in real time. He does not respond to them. Beginning in December, he posts a tarot spread. The next day he posts another tarot spread. He answers a different student publicly about the next course cycle. He posts a tarot spread. This continues, daily, for the rest of the window in which the materials are not being sent.

I would like, in good faith, to find another explanation for this sequence. I have not been able to.

By February, I had stopped asking.

What was actually happening, looking back, was a social economy with very specific rules: admiration in, access out. Flattery in, attention out. Emotional tribute paid upward in exchange for his attention. The irony of a narcissistic validation economy forming around a man whose magical name means "one with no name" is something to behold.

The screed I'd sent had, almost by accident, named the arrangement directly and made it clear I was no longer willing to participate in it. That's what couldn't be forgiven. People in his position can survive mockery. They can survive haters, detractors, gossip, piracy, schizoposting, and open hostility. Their entire defensive apparatus is built for frontal assault. What it isn't built to survive is a paying customer, no longer interested in approval, accidentally finding the exact arrangement of words that names what's actually happening. The mask came off because the words struck a load-bearing wall.

I had no strategic intent in any of it. I was just a customer asking for the PDFs I'd paid for, while saying what I'd come to think of the distribution system between me and the work.



I've watched the course emerge, circulate, and become one of the recognized modern access-points for Hekatean practice. I've also watched the landscape around it widen. Hekate isn't held inside the small rooms and privileged access-points that once seemed to dominate the conversation. The forums have multiplied. People who've gone through the courses now speak openly about their experiences.

What I figured out, eventually, is that you don't actually need him.

The chapter titles for both courses are publicly available; he uses them as advertising copy. The map is visible. Anyone with that map, a working relationship with Her, and enough discipline can begin rebuilding the territory. The system was never the locked vault he positioned it as.

I'll give him exactly this much: the arrangement is real, and the arrangement is his. It doesn't need to stay his. Eventually you take the training wheels off the bike, grind the asshole's initials off the frame, and ride it as your own. What's left after that is between you and Her.

The format itself, along with the distribution apparatus around it, is a disgrace to the deity whose name is being profited from. I want to back off from that slightly — it's a strong claim. He's running a small business on Her name. The business sells the same goddess in three pieces because three pieces sell better than one. I've used the phrase "turning Her names into toilet paper sales" to describe one of the worst offenders in what I call the Hekate Industrial Complex. I stand by both phrases. They might be slightly hot. That's where I land on it.

He did his job getting the work into circulation. Whatever relationship people build with it after that is between them and Her.

She is bigger than one curriculum. Bigger than one man's distribution system.

You can sit down, trace the sources the chapter titles point toward, follow the magical logic underneath them, and put together your own practice from Her directly. You do not need the Gatekeeper. You never did. What you may need is discipline, discernment, and a real relationship with Her.

I want to be careful with the word "guru" here, because I don't think he'd accept it. He's something else. A carnival operator, maybe. He has a stage. He has a microphone. He has, going for him, charisma, a blog, and a PayPal link.

If you meet Hekate's self-appointed prophet on the road, take his name to the crossroads and put a pendulum on it.

I once asked Her through divination why people like him are tolerated around this work at all. The answer was: "I use their big mouths to spread my name." I had been hoping for vindication. I got perspective instead. I am still adjusting.



One last thing before I close.

I'm not saying his work doesn't work. I'm not calling him a fraud. His magic works. The system he sells is real. It delivers results for students who use it. None of this post should be read as disputing any of that. That's part of why the harm is what it is.

If he were running a scam, this would be a consumer complaint about expecting magic and receiving nothing. He isn't running a scam. He's running a real apparatus, on Her name, in which the magic does in fact work — and in which access to the magic is governed by his temper, his ego, his selective attention to students, his willingness to ghost people who have spent thousands of dollars and a decade of loyalty over a single message he found inconvenient, and his readiness to indefinitely withhold paid-for materials over any disturbance to his self-image.

What I'm calling him is someone exploiting Her name for profit while behaving with contempt toward his own students. I've also taken his Lucifer course and his Tibetan sorcery work, and the arrangement is the same in both. The contempt is selective. It activates when the student stops paying tribute. I have watched this activate, in my own case, in real time. I'm describing what I saw.

One more thing worth flagging. His business and his personal Facebook are fused. Paying for his courses includes ongoing exposure to his feed, which is its own experience.

The magic is real. The mediation is corrupt.

I'm laying this down so it might spare other people from emptying their pockets, over time, into the bank account of someone whose work isn't as deep as he claims it is. The goddess doesn't need gatekeepers. What he runs, in the end, is a small carnival. The carnival has a barker. The barker has a microphone. The applause, in this arrangement, is the product. Every round of clapping goes in his paycheck.

No future student should have to endure the financial predation, the emotional damage, or the slow corrosive disregard that I and others have endured at his hands.

That this post is shipping on the next Taurus new moon, thirteen months after the reading that told me to separate the work from the man, is not lost on me.

I didn't plan it. I would have shipped it months ago if I could have.
I couldn't. Here we are.

Spookster, signing off here as Mist Starkana from this point forward.
 

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His logistics are reputably very, very bad. I really like his attitude and perspective on things, but I've never had a problem with saving his material and needing to reach out to him. I've seen people try for months and months to no avail, resorting to commenting in Q&A posts to get his attention.

But like you said, his content works. His books are great, and he fills in a great gap for people looking for tested material in their beginner & intermediate stages. I don't have the same vitriol as others on this forum for his work, as his material worked for me and was a huge influence on my practice.

You can find all his courses online, and since you already paid for it, download it back! Who needs him!
 

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Thanks, ashlesha. "Reputably very, very bad." Indeed. That this is said by someone whose experience with his material remains positive matters. Mine was too, for many years — until I asked for help during one of the hardest periods of my life, was given his word, and watched what he did with it.

One small note on your closing, in the spirit of keeping the record straight: to my knowledge the Course 2 and Course 3 Hekate materials aren't actually circulating. Of critical note: the same sources he draws on are not impossible to trace. Those of us who've been through the work and lived with Her for any meaningful length of time have the wisdom to advise on where to look.

The material exists. The lineage exists. It just doesn't require a Gordon Gekko Goddess Grifter rocknroll clown posing as Her chokepoint.

— Mist
His logistics are reputably very, very bad. I really like his attitude and perspective on things, but I've never had a problem with saving his material and needing to reach out to him. I've seen people try for months and months to no avail, resorting to commenting in Q&A posts to get his attention.

But like you said, his content works. His books are great, and he fills in a great gap for people looking for tested material in their beginner & intermediate stages. I don't have the same vitriol as others on this forum for his work, as his material worked for me and was a huge influence on my practice.

You can find all his courses online, and since you already paid for it, download it back! Who needs him!
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Two quick factual corrections, plus one clarification. First: I referred to it as the "Lucifer course." The actual title is The Devil's Sorcery. That's the one I bought. The broader point still stands. Second: The "Tibetan sorcery" I mentioned was specifically Phurba: Sorcery of the Razor Nail. Clarification: I lost the Course 2 and Course 3 Dropbox files after I nuked about 98% of my inbox during that rough period. I didn't back them up first. At the time it felt like decisive spiritual hygiene. In hindsight it was raccoon behavior. He still could've just resent the Dropbox links. There's more on the record I'll be adding when I get to it. — Mist
 
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The other courses are out there if you look harder! Not the arcane audios though.

Honestly I sympathize with him because he needs extra hands to manage his accounts and respond to emails. His systems are so antiquated that it's almost impossible for him to do it himself, but I don't think he has enough success to hire another person to do it for him. If he took a ton of effort to export the list of people and information into some sort of AI, maybe he could keep track easily and also auto respond appropriately, but it's a huge risk & liability to put people's contact information into that as a business owner. As someone in a professional level field, I'd be a complete wreck without our office and logistics staff.

Sorry to hear you had a bad experience with getting support. The Devil's Sorcery isn't too expensive to buy again, but the others you should probably just recover online since you already paid for it. I wouldn't encourage that for his work unless you had already paid for it before!

By the way I think you might be using AI for your responses, and it's clouding what you're trying to say!
 

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The other courses are out there if you look harder! Not the arcane audios though.

Honestly I sympathize with him because he needs extra hands to manage his accounts and respond to emails. His systems are so antiquated that it's almost impossible for him to do it himself, but I don't think he has enough success to hire another person to do it for him. If he took a ton of effort to export the list of people and information into some sort of AI, maybe he could keep track easily and also auto respond appropriately, but it's a huge risk & liability to put people's contact information into that as a business owner. As someone in a professional level field, I'd be a complete wreck without our office and logistics staff.

Sorry to hear you had a bad experience with getting support. The Devil's Sorcery isn't too expensive to buy again, but the others you should probably just recover online since you already paid for it. I wouldn't encourage that for his work unless you had already paid for it before!

By the way I think you might be using AI for your responses, and it's clouding what you're trying to say!
Thanks for your engagement, Ashlesha.

On the AI question — yeah, the writing is heavily edited.

There are some stilted parts, sure, but the truth of the matter is there.
I'll make corrections where I can on small residual points as they come to light and deserve it.
I was working against an astrological deadline as part of a ceremonial process when I drafted this, and what I was able to get out through the process will eventually be shaped into a more final, enduring form.

I appreciate your honesty about it.

I've tried to minimize the "AI slop" voice. With the more emotionally loaded material, I'd rather it come out in an "AI Norm Macdonald" register than as invective, rage, and spiraling. I've been carrying this for years, and certain parts just can't be stated in my unedited voice without finding a compromise I wouldn't reach without the patience to invite revisions and reconsidered angles.

The original post went through fifteen revisions, each one boiling sections down to their barest concentrated form, landing each necessary point as precisely as I could until I got a "go" in my readings to share it. The voice, content, and judgment are mine. The careful handling was essential: to get the truth of a complicated matter out in the least tangled form possible, flayed — as much as can be hoped — of my personal hatred, and shaped into something that could at least be lighthearted, if not, in some way, humorous.

I aim for transparency in all respects.

On the sympathy angle — I hear you, but I strongly diverge there.

A guy running multi-language book deals and internationally distributed course sales, with mods for his Facebook groups, not appointing anyone to handle Dropbox links and e-commerce distribution is beyond disgraceful infrastructure management. It's an insult to the community he fleeced for money. Because if anything goes wrong, God help you if - in a moment of personal frustration - his ego catches strays.

The larger point is what he was actually doing during the months I was waiting: daily three-card tarot spreads across a hundred-plus decks, bookshelf selfies, charity brags, Boomer-tier political meltdowns in full urgent-threat mode, and prompt public replies to other students’ questions about course cycles.

None of that is the behavior of a man drowning in operational overwhelm. That is the behavior of a guy with abundant time and energy for theatrical self-presentation, a lavish appetite for social validation, and a specific, selective inability to do the one thing he had promised.

The performative arc was the issue. Not the logistics.

The kernel of the entire issue is how he willfully used his word as a weapon. The calculated good-guy presentation — the image management, the moral glow, the public saintliness — all of it functioned as cover while he strung me along knowing the performative disregard was in full view.

The ability to turn sacred mysteries into a pay-to-play carousel, cloak the whole thing in a glamour of generosity, teaching, and service, then retreat into “overwhelm” the moment accountability arrives is something to behold.

But the deeper offense is the abuse of one’s own word: using sacred arcana as psychological leverage, dangling access, withholding fulfillment, and punishing the person who names the pattern. It is not overwhelm. It is lying at its most malicious and deceptive. It is neurotic and it is utterly disgusting.

For anyone considering doing business with this character: understand the operating rule. No matter how ridiculous the behavior, how inept the systems, how disingenuous the framing you might witness, whatever you do, don’t call any of it what it is.

At all times, genuflect before the Guruphant.

Because if you hold him to his word, the issue will not remain the word he broke. It will become your tone, your impatience, your lack of gratitude, your failure to understand his burdens, your insufficient reverence before his unquestionably efficient Dropbox carousel.

For my part: I still have the Phurba course and the Devil material. I had grown tired of seeing his name appear in my Dropbox and unsubscribed from the Course 2 and Course 3 lists before I deleted things, so they stopped coming while I still get his phurba course. That's the boneheaded move that threw me into materials-access hell, at the mercy of Hekate’s self-anointed Guruphant and self-absorbed, vengeful gatekeeper.

On the availability point, noted. I’ll keep an eye out.

— Mist
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It's the Full Moon, so I'm coming back to fill in the gaps — the details that have surfaced since the original post, and the parts I can now account for that I couldn't before. From the top:

For years, Jason Miller's Sorcery of Hekate was at the center of my practice. Even in the stretches when I wasn't attending the community or working it formally, I'd internalized it — the Mandala building, the Triplicity calls, the new moon offerings had become part of how I lived. This was never a course I consumed and shelved. It was something I carried.

Then I lost access to the material during a long period of narcissistic abuse — the kind of situation that distorts your judgment and strips things from you a piece at a time. When I finally came up for air and reached out to him, it was from the lowest point of my life. That's the context for everything that followed.

I bought all three of Jason Miller's Sorcery of Hekate courses and completed the first two as a first-cycle student — along with over a decade of his books and other material. Thousands of dollars and serious devotional work with Her, built on top of what was taught. Course 3 I paid for but never worked through; life had me slammed at the time and it sat in my inbox waiting. Still mine. Still paid for.

And to be precise about that loss: I didn't lose everything indiscriminately, and I didn't throw it away carelessly. But I won't pretend I can fully reconstruct the logic of what I kept and what I parted with. Looking back, it's like trying to read the reasoning of someone under a spell — and in every sense that matters, I was. What I let go of, I let go of as a kind of offering, in misguided trust, believing I was reaching back toward Her in a new way. Some of those partings were the
hardest and most traumatic things I have ever done. I hurt myself doing them. I know that now. I kept the things that were truest to me and released the rest in a state I can only describe as devotional and badly mistaken at once. Discernment and damage, tangled together under duress. That distinction matters for what comes next.

I spent the summer trying to reach him through Facebook to get back into the returning Course 1 cycle and start over. Those messages went unanswered for months — Facebook's inbox filtering had buried them — and I missed the cycle that opened around Halloween because of it.

When he finally surfaced, the message he led with was a frustrated one I'd sent into that same silence, venting about his distribution. He was irritated I'd vented. I explained the whole situation honestly anyway — including that I'd once paid voluntarily for materials a clerical error had given me for free, because that's the kind of student I was. He said he'd help. Re-added me to the Hut, confirmed my email directly.

Then he strung me along. Messages read and ignored while the same threads got answered daily in front of me. When I pressed him, the line I got was that asking for the materials I paid for was like walking into a Barnes & Noble after I'd "thrown all my books away" and asking someone to go collect them again — "I'll get to it when I get to it." He never got to it. A Dropbox link takes five minutes; I was slinging them daily as a TA at the time. What he did have time for was a daily tarot-deck posting spree and constant political commentary. Then he blocked me. The materials never came.

The disappointment didn't land all at once. It came in waves, each one larger than the last, as I slowly admitted what I was actually looking at.

The hardest part to write isn't any of that. It's that I kept apologizing. I apologized more than once, in good faith, working to resolve it, because I genuinely believed he was the kind of person who could recognize good intentions and meet them. It was so far over the top that I struggled to clock it for what it was while it was happening — my mind kept insisting there had to be a reasonable explanation, that no one in his position would behave this way on purpose. He never turned around. Extending that much benefit of the doubt to someone determined to spend it is a humiliation that becomes its own kind of initiation — and I have every screenshot. Nobody is going to tell me I imagined this.

That's the part I still reckon with: how small the fix was. I wasn't asking for charity or special treatment. I was asking for access to material I'd already paid for, studied, practiced, and built years of devotional work around. He turned a five-minute administrative fix into a character study.

And the Barnes & Noble analogy only works if Barnes & Noble took your money, confirmed your purchase history, promised to restore your access, then blocked you at the register.

Going back through my own Dropbox recently, I found course materials I'd forgotten I even had — files I didn't recognize for what they were until I looked at the dates and it clicked. I held more of this than I realized, the whole time. I paid for it, I kept it, it's been sitting in my own archive for years. I'm not here to diagnose the man or relitigate his character. I'm telling you what happened, because it happened — and because I paid for what I'm still owed.

To those who doubt me, let me be direct about what I can and cannot show. During the years I call my Dark Ages I cleaned out my email, unsubscribed from the distribution lists, and deleted most of the receipts. I was tearing things down, not preserving evidence for a fight I didn't know was coming. So no, I don't have a pristine paper trail. What survived is what survived — the folders still sitting in my archive with their original dates, and the screenshots of the exchange itself.

And before anyone asks why I didn't simply go around him to other students: I did, in the one clean way there was. I'd commented publicly on his course announcement explaining my situation. A month later — during the very week he told me he'd handle it "the next day" — another student saw that comment and offered to help. I turned them down. In good faith. On the strength of his word, given days earlier. I told them I was sorted, that it had come through. It hadn't. The materials never came.

Sit with what that means. His word, on that specific day, was the instrument by which I declined the only real help that ever surfaced — under his own post, in a thread he could see. By the time I understood, the channel had closed. I wasn't going to start reactivating years-dormant relationships to ask people to vouch for me to a man who'd already promised twice. That's not recourse. That's a humiliation I declined to arrange for myself.

His word did not solve the problem. His word prevented the only other solution from happening.

Some more for the record, since these are the parts that still sit with me the worst, and leaving them out would be its own kind of lie.

Somewhere in the middle of those months of read receipts and silence, I capitulated. I told him something I actually believe and still believe: that I didn't need the course. That nobody needs his course to know how close they stand to Her. That my practice was my own and didn't live or die by his Dropbox folder. I meant every word. But I said it to him, in that moment, for a reason — to hand him the cleanest possible way out. All he had to do was meet a student who'd just told him the material wasn't even the point.

I was certain this was the moment. Nothing left for him to defend, no leverage left to protect. Surely now he'd say "don't worry, man, I've got you, my word's good." I built him the off-ramp and stood back to watch him take it.

He didn't. He read it — the receipt says so — and gave me the same silence he'd been running for months. I had lowered myself to reassure the man who was robbing me, handed him an exit that cost him nothing, and he decided the silence was worth more than a five-minute act of decency. Not a busy man. Not an overwhelmed one. A man who'll watch you extend him grace you don't owe him and find it isn't enough tribute.

That was the bottom. I had humiliated myself past what I could stand. Enraged, humiliated, and in something close to abject despair, I unfriended him, left the Hut, and eventually blocked him myself — partly to stop myself from doing something in volatility that would only hand him the moral high ground he was already pretending to hold.

The months after were not graceful. I won't pretend they were. I sent two emails, months apart, into what I was increasingly sure was a dead channel — almost certainly the no-reply automated Dropbox distribution addresses, not anything he'd ever lay eyes on. They weren't really letters to him so much as rage with nowhere to go. I was screaming into an automated void and I knew it even as I did it. One of them, I told him I hoped Hekate beat the brakes off his ego. I'm not proud of the register, but I'm not going to pretend a man pushed that far stays composed. He doesn't. I didn't.

Eventually I worked out the emails weren't reaching anyone, and I made one last direct move. I unblocked him on Facebook for a single message. I told him, for the first time, about the $600 I'd voluntarily paid years earlier after the clerical mix-up — the proof of exactly what kind of student he was throwing away. I asked for the materials and an apology. I told him plainly that if he ignored it, I'd go public, and yes, that I'd leak the work. I meant it when I wrote it. Then: your move, boss.

He read it. He blocked me. That was the last contact.

Here's the part that lands like a punchline the goddess wrote herself. Going back through my own Dropbox recently, I found Course 2 and Course 3 materials I'd forgotten were even there — files I didn't recognize for what they were until the dates clicked. I'd unsubscribed from his distribution lists and nuked my inbox during the bad years, so I'd convinced myself the materials were gone and the recovery was the whole fight. They weren't all gone. I'd been carrying more than I knew, the entire time. I have the dated folders. I have proof going back years. I paid for it, I kept it, and it's been sitting in my own archive the whole time I was lowering myself to beg the gatekeeper for a copy.

It is what it is. Fuck him. Hail Hekate.

— Mist

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